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LOVE ISLAND – A PSYCHOTHERAPIST VIEW – WEEK 3

June 22, 2018 2:47 pm

Love Island – Week 3 Relationship and affairs expert Yvonne Filler analyses week 3 on the island. When Love Island makes BBC Breakfast news you know its been a controversial week for the islanders.  Not for the first time Adam steals the limelight, or is that gaslight?  This week we possibly add our own controversial view as we cast an expert eye over proceedings. Adam – Adam, Adam, Adam.  If only you knew what was being said on the outside... View Article

LOVE ISLAND – WEEK 2 – PSYCHOTHERAPIST VIEW

June 15, 2018 8:38 pm

Relationship and affairs expert Yvonne Filler analyses week 2 on the island. So they’ve certainly settled in now.  With a love triangle, a re-coupling and an unexpected vote off, it’s all been going on this week.  Time for a little psychological analysis…… Adam and Rosie – Well, as predicted, Adam was really the one to watch this week, at least at the start of the week.  After choosing Rosie and thus sending Kendall home he hasn’t exactly slipped under the... View Article

Interview with Wendy Capewell – Author of “From Surviving to Thriving in a Romantic Relationship”

June 11, 2018 12:31 pm

Q.   Congratulations on your book Wendy.  Can you give us a summary of what it’s all about? A.  Relationships go through all kinds of stages.  It starts with the romantic, or honeymoon stage, where love seems so effortless, and people don’t see or overlook the other’s less endearing habits. When people are asked why attracts them to the person they fell in love with, they often respond with the physical attraction, and then say they like the same activities,... View Article

“Love Island” Ask the Expert….Week 1

June 10, 2018 2:23 pm

Relationship and affairs expert Yvonne Filler analyses this weeks’ drama. So, they’re in, the class of 2018.  Record viewing figures watched the opening episode that saw our class couple up for the first time.  But never ones to hold back, the producers are already throwing the hand grenades and exciting audiences with the explosions.  So what’s caught the expert eye so far? Kendall – As much as I loved her refreshing  “just give me time” approach, I’m glad Kendall is... View Article

The “C” Word

May 21, 2018 2:23 pm

Staying connected when you’re constantly apart Our blogs constantly talks about the “C” word.  Yes, “Connection”.  Connection is the key to any healthy relationship.  Connection is easy in the early stages.  We crave the togetherness.  Talking, spending time together, sex.  But over time it becomes harder, especially as children and normal life issues are added into the mix.  The excitement fades and we have to work at keeping our relationship fresh. Staying connected can be particularly hard for those who... View Article

“I knew he was having an affair..”

May 14, 2018 8:57 am

The media present the discovery of an affair in a very dramatic and explosive way.  It is, however, very rare that someone is caught in bed with someone else or immediately has a violent showdown with the “other” woman or man.  In fact, the initial stage of affair discovery, “shock”, can be a very solitary, quiet and lonely experience. Whether it be through the media, the experience of someone we know or what we’ve read about, most of us at... View Article

Why did they cheat?

May 9, 2018 12:37 pm

@affair_clinic quoted in this @almaraabgarian article for @MetroUK in our continuing quest to highlight the dangers of using an affair website. http://metro.co.uk/…/i-dreaded-his-return-home-from-work-t…/

Who’s to blame?

April 30, 2018 1:28 pm

When an affair is discovered, people inevitably, but unhelpfully, point fingers.  The gossip machine starts working overtime.  “He was always over friendly”, “I always thought she might be having an affair”, “Why she staying with him?”, “How did he not realise?”, “This was always going to happen”.  In essence we are generally looking of someone to blame. It wasn’t me On a first meeting a client recently came in very distressed from a counselling session she had received elsewhere.  She... View Article

Consequences are personal

April 12, 2018 12:40 pm

GUEST BLOG Biography:  Confessions of a Reformed Cad is a an American writer, pilgrim, and entrepreneur traveling America’s midwest looking for his heart’s true north. He is working to rediscover his self-respect and power and to be worthy of a woman’s trust and respect. He is inspired by @EstherPerel ‘s TedX talks & books. My infidelity, secret-keeping, and escalating series of lies have resulted in swift, unrelenting, expensive, and extensive consequences and punishments and will take years of my life... View Article

“Stray to Stay”

March 18, 2018 7:54 pm

Really? Is there anyone who really believes this is a good idea? Apparently there is. This new, counter-intuitive, phrase-on-the-street implies that if we “stray” then we are more likely to “stay” in our primary relationship. The premise is that an affair gives us what we are missing from our relationship in the short term and reignites us to find that within our main partnership. In very rare cases, clients have found that the discovery of a “stray” even helped the... View Article