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Regrets. I’ve had a few.

October 2, 2017 11:46 am

Many of our clients come to us not just with past regrets but wondering if they will come to regret their current actions. Often they are looking for a crystal ball to see what happens next. Obviously we can’t predict the future but we can use our experience to help them understand what their situation means to them and help them come to their own conclusions about what they want to do. This is not just about those having affairs.... View Article

The Fall

September 8, 2017 10:45 am

September. If you’re American you’re entering “The Fall”. Perhaps even more of a time for new beginnings than January. Let’s face it January may have the year change but what else? September sees our kids start a whole new chapter in new schools or school years. The weather instantly tells us to dust off our jackets. We ditch the late summer nights drinking rose and begin to think of red wine by the fire. We welcome back our old friend... View Article

The Age Gap Affair

June 20, 2017 10:09 am

It can be the biggest cliche of them all, older boss meets younger secretary and one thing leads to another. But can the age gap affair work out long term? When a very large proportion of affairs with people of similar ages don’t work out it follows that throwing an age gap into the mix drastically reduces the odds of a happy ever after. But we know probably all know relationships that do make it work. Harrison Ford and Calista... View Article

How many chances?

June 5, 2017 12:44 pm

Anthea Turner was all over the media a couple of weeks ago saying she could forgive once but not twice. Jennifer Garner did not give Ben Affleck that second chance but Elin Nordgren stuck with Tiger Woods through numerous affairs before finally calling it a day on their marriage. We don’t know what was going on behind the closed doors, but we do all act very differently faced with infidelity. So how did you or would you react? We asked... View Article

Behind closed doors

May 30, 2017 8:56 am

“No survey about relationships or sex is ever accurate” The Affair Clinic, May 2017. What is normal? Ok, so this is a sweeping generalisation that completely discredits hundreds of thousands of articles that have ever been written, but between us we’ve met many hundreds of couples who, as a result of said articles, fear their relationship or sex life is not “normal”. But what is normal? Before we settle into a relationship, “normal” is the relationships we saw as we... View Article

Beware the voyeurs!

May 22, 2017 12:08 pm

It’s always an interesting conversation starter (or finisher!) when someone asks one of our team “What do you do?”. Generally people say “how interesting” and “I bet you’ve heard it all!”. They usually want to know more. The fact is, affairs can be interesting to other people. It’s exactly why soap opera scriptwriters come back to the affair storyline over and over again and I’m sure you can name at least 10 films without really thinking where an affair is... View Article

I’m a “ladies man”

May 16, 2017 7:36 am

“It’s Ok, I’m a ladies man” In her latest book, Barbara Windsor describes her affair with Sid James as “inevitable” calling him a “ladies man”. It sparked a bit of a discussion here at The Affair Clinic HQ. To some this made the affair sound like it was ok, totally justified. But is it? What qualifies you as a “ladies man”? Is it an uncontrollable part of your DNA or did you choose that path? Do all “ladies men” have... View Article

The game’s up! 5 things to do right now.

May 8, 2017 11:37 am

They’ve found out.  What now? Sympathy, support and empathy generally favours the person who has been cheated on and rightly so. But where advice is concerned there is an equal need on both sides. The jury is split on whether the adulterer deserves any advice but, whilst we don’t ever condone an affair they are sadly a reality of life and we are in the business of making affairs as painless as possible with the right outcomes for all concerned.... View Article

Your Questions

May 2, 2017 10:51 am

Last week we asked if anyone had questions for the The Affair Clinic that we could publish anonymously and answer for you.  We were happy a few of you took that opportunity and your answers are below.  Do get in touch if you’d like further help. Don’t worry if you missed your opportunity this time – we’ll be running it again in a few months so stay connected. Q  I’m ready to tell my partner I’ve had an affair. I’ve... View Article